• random@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    13 hours ago

    why can’t this happen to me? why do cis men get to look like women but I (a transwoman) only look like an ugly man with long hair

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    Just 2 bros comparing shot composition, ain’t nothing weird about that.

    If you get the lighting just right it’s called Rembrandt Lighting and it’ll really make it look nice

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    I’m not sure I understand what the transphobe is saying (I don’t want to call these people radical feminists, they’re not).

    She sees an exchange where two people talk about exchanging nudes, and she assumes they were both trans women, so she thinks she’s exposing them as men because they aren’t acting like women (who would never share nude photos of themselves)?

    It’s honestly confusing to me (lots of cis women share nude photos, though not usually to their friends AFAIK).

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      I think it’s a joke

      The setup makes us assume no nudes are being exchanged.

      We expect that the transphobe is warning the writer that one of the people receiving nudes is trans. We then expect the reveal to be that the write is trans or something along those lines. It was difficult for me to follow too.

      The punchline is that nudes were indeed being exchanged. The transphobe was just a subversion.

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        Oh, sorry - it was hard for me to follow your comment as well, but here’s my understanding:

        We read about OP sharing nudes with a friend.

        TERF warns OP that they are sharing nudes not with a fellow woman, but with a man (TERF is assuming friend was a trans woman, assumes OP is a cis woman).

        We expect OP to reveal they are actually a trans woman, but instead we learn OP and his friend are cis men.

        Does this seem right?

        Sorry, these moments make me feel like I must be autistic or something, lol

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      I’m not sure I understand what the transphobe is saying (I don’t want to call these people radical feminists, they’re not).

      Feminism Appropriating Radical Transphobes

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        My problem is with associating it with feminism, it’s offensive to me and factually inaccurate. TERF talking points are usually gender essentializing in a way that is contrary with radical feminist viewpoints, for example, and lots of TERFs now distance themselves from feminism intentionally as they coalition with the right-wing. “Gender critical feminism” is not feminism at all, and better characterized as fundamentally anti-trans rather than fundamentally feminist.

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          I completely agree, that;s why I like to call them FARTs. And it fits - they are radically transphobic and they do appropriate feminism despite not being feminist

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    i’m not even sure that this is a case of transphobia. if i had to take a guess i’d assume that this insult to feminists everywhere saw the word “nudes” and immediately assumed

    1. OP was a woman, who
    2. was sending naked pictures of herself to a man, who
    3. did not know her in person and had coerced her into doing so

    i’d bet money that the “feminist” described here is the sort of person who views all sex workers as victims of the patriarchy and refuses to believe them – or, better yet, tells them they’re confused – if they say they actually enjoy doing it