The closest word I can think of is a sycophant but that’s too strong word and not exactly what I’m looking for. The word I’m thinking of has negative connotations and it’s for someone who is friends with different groups but only at a superficial level and isn’t necessarily honest about who all they’re friends with. This person would be seen as untrustworthy.

  • H1jAcK@lemm.ee
    3·
    10 months ago

    Is this person known to be friends with each group, by each group? Or are they trying to keep their connections hidden, as well?

    • Pat12@lemmy.worldOP
      26·
      10 months ago

      They keep their connections hidden; it is the other groups who when asked state that they are friendly with this person.

      • thantik@lemmy.worldEnglish
        11·
        10 months ago

        Honestly I’d feel quite attacked if I were on the other side of this questioning.

          • thantik@lemmy.worldEnglish
            171·
            10 months ago

            You’re actively having people ask who their friends are, and they’re being guarded about it.

            If you felt like you might be kicked out of a group of friends that you really liked, because of your association with someone THEY didn’t like; wouldn’t you be a little guarded too?

            It doesn’t sound like you’re friends with this person at all. So if not, just stop pretending they’re your friend. Because if being friends with you is dependent on them NOT being friends with someone else – then you aren’t a friend.