TBF, that’s sort of my experience of pronouns due to finding queer community at university.
TBF, that’s sort of my experience of pronouns due to finding queer community at university.
I agree. Whenever I get into an argument online, it’s usually with the understanding that it exists for the benefit of the people who may spectate the argument — I’m rarely aiming to change the mind of the person I’m conversing with. Especially when it’s not even a discussion, but a more straightforward calling someone out for something, that’s for the benefit of other people in the comments, because some sentiments cannot go unchanged.
What have you found most useful from switching? I switched to emacs a while ago and still feel like a beginner (largely because I got too greedy with all the goodies at the beginning and ended up with loads of features I hadn’t learned to use yet and a messy init.el. I restarted and am adding features as I need them, to prevent that same complexity sprawl)
“I play both sides so I always come out on top!”
Oh no.
Good thing I have like, 3 keyboards
You’re right, that is pretty funny. I didn’t notice until you pointed it out in this comment
You’ve bamboozled my attempt to make the same joke at your expense by only mentioning one number in your comment, giving me nothing to add to it. From this point on, I conclude we should only ever mention one number in each comment, for clarity.
Memes that are autistic memes without explicitly mentioning autism
I haven’t self harmed for a long time
And you’re not allowed to say something is a problem unless you know the solution. My comeback to this is about how you don’t need to be a chef to have an opinion on whether food tastes bad or not.
Women are the same way to get a new job in a different way
Your comment has made me understand this better than anything I’ve previously read has. Thanks for sharing your perspective.
Oh yeah, Bluey is pretty great. I have a couple friends who don’t have kids who put it on when they need soft, warm, background noise. It’s better than a lot of stuff for the same age range — I have a brother who is significantly younger than me, so I’ve seen my fair share of children’s TV trash and Bluey is a freshing contrast
Ask her what her favourite episode is. Once you get small kids talking, it’s actually great, they tell such great stories.
Share (age appropriate of course) opinions of your own along the way. Like, don’t just say “have you seen [episode with pots and pans]”, expand it by saying stuff like you’ve not seen much Bluey, but you have seen the one with the pots and pans — does she know the one you mean? I suggest this because kids are actually pretty socially adept and I’ve found myself in analogous situations where I caused confusion by mentioning something I barely knew and the kid reasonably interpreted this as “this person wants to talk about this thing”, and then when I didn’t seem to know anything about the topic I had suggested, the kid seemed pretty thrown off and uncertain how to respond.
Or completely open ended questions, like “I know you like Bluey, but I’ve never seen it before. What’s your favourite episode?”, which could lead into asking for more details on what happened in that particular episode and why she likes it.
The thing about small talk is that I’ve found there’s a distinction between being good at it, and enjoying it. I used to think I was awful at smalltalk, before I realised that actually, I just didn’t find it enjoyable. I think to some extent, the point isn’t to enjoy it, but to build a conversational back and forth rally which builds initial rapport to figure out what common ground exists between two people (which can lead to more enjoyable proper conversation). Some people do enjoy small talk though. The rally model was useful for me because it underscored how I need to serve the other person options to hit back with.
For example, most kids go to school, so that’s a decent enough topic for if you’re running out of ideas. With kids, you can get away with clunky conversation starters like “What’s your favourite subject at school?”. Better than that though is something like “My favourite subject at school is science, what’s yours?” because it gives your conversation partner the option of responding either to your statement (such as with “ugh, I hate science, [teacher] is so mean!”), or your question, and having multiple options to hit back with allows for flow to help. Once you hit on a topic the kid is excited to talk about, you’re golden: just keep being interested in their perspective and give bits of your own perspective so they don’t feel like they’re being interrogated.
Edit: This was a great question, btw OP — It’s led to a lot of interesting discussion, thanks for asking it
Oh gosh, I’ve never actually seen the original before, only the countless memes. That hurt my heart, to see him become increasingly stressed out as he stumbled over his words, bless him. I was incredibly relieved to eventually get the sentence out and for him to relax into a smile.
Oh my gosh, that’s incredible. It’s so cool to compare it to This one from 12 years ago
Oh no, now I’m going to have to search for an old floppy disc
Thanks for sharing that post, it was super interesting.
I wish I could see behind the scenes in the Windows UI discussions, to see how we get to what we have today
This is brilliant, I love it. It’s a joke, but it actually captures my experience of my assigned gender at birth perfectly.
I think I saw a paper on this kind of thing over a year ago. Iirc, it said that engagement is lower on Mastodon, but higher quality.