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Cake day: June 3rd, 2025

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  • In theory this is non-harmful. In practice this is part of a fantasy escalation ladder that leads bad places. Your actions are led by your thoughts, and you are the thoughts you feed. In reality it’s a good thing to not feed thoughts of abusing children.

    I’d note that I’d be similarly uncomfortable with people buying hyper-realistic dolls to practice amateur torture on, but I’m ok with people buying silicone dolls to practice tattoo art and wound stitching on. The difference being intent, which is a line I’m equally unhappy with the government drawing. Someone slicing up a slab of silicone shaped like a baby because they have a desperate desire to hurt babies that they are actively feeding into is bad. Someone practicing stitching up silicone babies after injuries because they always wanted to be a doctor and never got the chance is healthier and fine. It’s the “what are you feeding with this action?” Problem of governance.



  • I am a pragmatist. My decisions on issues are entirely based on context. Right now I believe we need government services for necessary things to increase because the free market isn’t providing them due to misaligned incentives, and if we don’t want to live in a complete shithole world that needs to change. Absolutely nothing is preventing us from living in a complete shithole. There’s no higher power out to save us. So we better step up and organize to save ourselves.




  • “Ugly” as an insult does more damage when it’s aimed at a person who was taught their only value in the whole world was how cute they look, regardless of gender. It just happens that the majority of people who were taught that from birth were women.

    Nobody does beauty and the beast with an ugly chick and a cute guy without explicitly trying to undermine the ideal of beauty as intrinsically the sole function of a woman. Men get to be primarily funny, sweet, handy, clever, etc, with handsome as a potential secondary add-on; women generally need to be beautiful, with any other characteristics being the secondary add-on.

    And we’re not taking about things you can choose, like hygiene and smoking status. Just looks. A woman who’s kind but ugly always turns into a beautiful swan at the end of the male fantasy story.

    If you call someone an inbred thickhead it hits about the same. If you call someone a slimey booger it hits about the same. If you call someone a useless empty ghoul it hits about the same. But you gotta know visual insults like ugly have broader social context.

    And to be clear. A HUGE amount of this problem is intensified and maintained by the billion dollar beauty industry, which LOVES insecurity. It’s working hard to monetize men too! But it’s still a work in progress there.