鳳凰院 凶真 (Hououin Kyouma)

(He/Him/佢/他)
Native Speaker of Cantonese, Mandarin, Taishanese, and English.


共产党… more like 共慘黨 lmao (homophone word joke, 共产 is “communist”; 共慘 is “suffering together”, same pronunciation lol)

光復香港,時代革命。
Liberate Hong Kong, Revolution of Our Times.

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  • I have Asian parents (we live in the US) and they’re kinda abusive, mostly emotionally, and yes the trying to get in your room all the time was kind of “normal” in my “overton window” of parents. (emphasis on quotes, I’m not saying the “normal” equates to acceptable)

    As for invasion of privacy, yes that was a common thing. My mother is constantly try to get access to my phone because she’s “worried about bad influences” or some shit. Like around when I was like 13, 14(?)… That kinda stopped when I got older.

    The sexual aspects… idk, they said porn was bad, but I never really had any parental controls on my stuff (the stuff they allowed me to have, technically electronics not “my” things, more like they bought me stuff after I sort of begged for it). For context, Asia really represses the sex-related stuff, especially in China, where we were from, porn is blocked, like you could theoretically go to jail for porn, even of depictions of consenting adults. But even in democratic countries like South Korea, its still blocked (though, VPN access is easier in South Korea).

    So yea… I never really told them about the porn… which I eventually kinda stopped anyways because I think I might be just asexual lol. But yea if they found out, they’d think its like “damaging for the brain” or something, they treat it almost like if you chatted with adults strangers or something.

    Like “if you watch too much sexual stuff, you’re gonna lose the ability to reproduce” or some stupid shit. I don’t think China even has sex-education lmao. They never even said a thing, until I just randomly mentioned about my mother’s period stuff just as a subtle indicator of “yes, I know how human anatomy works lol”, they never really said a thing. Never had “the talk” lol. Very weird family dynamics in thos aspect.

    I never had a journal, didn’t feel safe. I mean, I was very nerdy with codes and stuff so I’d probably have used a code had I been journaling.

    My older brother never really dared to go through my stuff ever since I got my own room and like I got older. Like dude I can fight, sure, we both get hurt, but its like Mutually Assured Destruction, wanna start shit, I’ll mess us both up. Still, I worry he might perceive a transgression for something I didn’t do and then “revenge” on such perceived grievance. So yea its kinda like cold war all the time.

    But as for the “test your sexuality” stuff, never happened. They kinda just assumed everyone is heterosexual. Religion isn’t that serious in China, so its never as crazy as the American South and the “Christians”. But yes it’s still very hetero-normative society.

    My mom joked about “do you have any girlfriends? no? what about gay-friends?” then laughs like its funny or something. But also tells me to focus on school and not romance stuff. I don’t think they oppose romance, but they are more worried about grades. But then again, I’m kinda asexual so I never bother with romance anyways.

    If I was gay, I think my mother would, not really shame the gay aspect, but more like the “what about my grandchildren” type of stuff, and be disappointed, and would probably try to use inheritances as leverage (I assume, since this part is hypothetical). Like… being “gay” isn’t really a “sin”, but “continuing the bloodline” is very important somehow, everyone in Asia is obsessed about it. So yeah, on thay aspect, they’ll be disappointed. But I think they’ll still be happy I have a “gay-friend”, they’ll just assume I’ll “eventually become heterosexual again” and this is just gonna become another normal friend, as if this is just a “phase”. Again, hypothetical, as I’m not actually gay.

    As for if I was trans… yea no… they’ll think it’s 变态 and a mental illness and would constantly try to “cure” me of it. Or probably disown me for being “broken”. This is less of anti-trans, more like ableism. I mean I have depression and they already treat me like I’m sort of “broken” and they are talking of leaving me out of inheritances lol.











  • I lived in China, I hated it.

    Its not really as beautiful as it seems.

    Sure, its not as bad as North Korea or Taliban-controlled Afganistan, but still, not like a nice place to be.

    I mean aside from the extremist politics of this administration obviously, I’m overall more ideologically alligned with the west than CCP, and the only potential issue I see is probably the racism I’d face, but its a big world, not everywhere is Texas. And hopefully this shit doesn’t go more than 4 years.

    Wall of text if you wanna read it...

    I mean, even just in terms of prosperity, you think the US is bad, China is worse. I still remember how much my parents were at work while I was just alone at home with my older brother (which is why we got in fights alot), and even then, we were still struggling.

    Culturally, there’s a lot of patriarchy, conservatism, culturally its sort of like the American South, but Chinese Edition.

    it seems like I read about the Chinese government moving in the opposite direction

    I meam, their PR is good, I’ll give them that. Some aspects of their stuff might be better, but overall society is still kinda f’ed. One the outside, it looks like its crime-free, on the inside, you’ll have people warning you about 碰瓷 (broken vase), a type of scam where they pretend like its your fault for breaking something, or pretend your car hit them so they can extort payment. Not even western propaganda, my mother told me about this stuff. Warning about these incidents are like all over WeChat. Sometimes there are even official local police warnings about these scams. Also, petty theft is more common.

    Even being born in 广州 (Guangzhou, a city), they still legally considers me a 台山人 (Taishan person, Taishan is rural), because of the Hukou system. I mean they basically let you be in the city until policy changes then you could theoretically be forced to leave and go back to your shitty village. (Sort of like the undocumented immigrants of America, but in China, this is internal borders) I remember the villages still had public bathrooms. Like if you need to use the bathroom at night, you walked outside of your house to the communal bathroom, no bathroom inside your house. The part of Guangzhou I lived in was also kinda like a slum, better than rural places, but still, very dirty. When I first learned of the Brazil Favelas, it kinda reminded me of the part of Guangzhou where I lived.

    Labor rights suck, there no independent unions. No OHSA.

    Also, internet sucks, firewall, censorship. (Domestic media is boring) Where I lived was so behind in developement that I never had internet until I came to the US.

    /rant over

    Basically the dilemma here is, Chinese-Americans, at least those who are westernized, never really fit in on either side.