Nat

What’s the difference between Kitsune and the existing lightweight servers microblog, GoToSocial, etc?

Semi-proud to say that after an intro day showing him the scope of the software, my replacement quit. We tried to tell him in the interview but maybe he just didn’t believe us.

Anyone know of an iOS version?

Looks neat! Anyone know of an iOS version?

I’d add a fourth one: when you’ve told him how it makes you feel (and requested he respect you and your time), he’s doubled-down on the disrespect. His shrug just shrugs off all your feelings you were open/vulnerable enough to share like they don’t matter. That’s not okay in a partnership of equals.

The other patterns you mention (like making you fumble through a new game after a long day and calling you a million times to ask minor questions) are the same thing — the initial thing was disrespectful, so you explained that to him, but he hasn’t chosen to see that as a reason to change. That’s a massive red flag.

Also, the weaponized ignorance (ie the refusal to spend the two minutes it would take to figure it out on his own) is another part of the very common pattern happening right now between very many couples. The women are waking up to just how unhealthy their dynamic is with their husbands. In the stories that make it to the internet the men don’t usually change — sometimes a huge life adjustment can shake him out of it but only if he reacts with empathy. Good luck. This is difficult. And you’re not alone.

I’m using Voyager and that’s a simple matter of a short left swipe, or the setting to hide read posts (and expanding its image or voting counts as having “read” it). But I don’t use the second and the first is tedious, so I feel similarly and don’t use anything but top (12 or 24 usually).

It wasn’t an issue because whenever someone would make a comment, it would “bump” the thread back up the top of the feed (whatever form the feed took). I think the “hot” filter is supposed to take interactions into account, but I think most people just browse top 12/24 hours.

edit: “active” sort seems to do this?

Also, given OP’s “very bright dusty” back yard, it’s likely water is a concern. So, collecting and reusing rain water for a shade garden could be also be a big improvement for general sustainability (plus energy savings).

Check out “solar generators”. They take input power from something variable like a solar panel, recharge their internal battery, and then provide lots of different outlets to power or recharge various devices. So, mostly “just” a battery, but very well set up for exactly this kind of thing.

I’ve been surprised not to see this with any of the fediverse platforms I’ve browsed. Instead, they’re all using Docker Compose. Any idea why that is?

Appropriate username. I’d say both. Both is good.

vger.app works now

Now that I’m on desktop, I checked and this was just added in 0.18.2: https://github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy-ui/issues/1418

The weird thing (which they’re also discussing elsewhere in this thread: https://upvote.au/comment/148846) is that it links to OP’s instance rather than the community’s instance.

• Where to find existing onion stands: https://lemmyverse.net/communities
• Where to watch for new onion stands: [email protected]

I think it would be best if each post had a canonical tag pointed at the originating server’s version of that post. The lemmy ui generates a canonical tag now but I’m not sure it doesn’t just point to itself.

You can also help by contributing good answers to others’ questions. This will attract folks who can answer your questions.

There’s https://sub.rehab that lists official and non-official subreddit replacements. You might also be interested in [email protected]

Since you’re the only one, you might consider setting an expiration on the media so your local storage serves as more of a cache. Like, I’m sure you’re far more likely to revisit a recent thread than a super old one, and as long as the original instance is still around you could redownload the media. This might require software patches though idk

FYI that’s true but it’s also a special case because this community is on their home server (like a relative link). So it’s probably easiest for folks in general to use the fully qualified mention (an absolute link).

I think the real threat comes from the larger user base they’ll likely bring. Because they’ll certainly favor their own instance’s communities, which means those communities could then grow to the point that they have enough leverage to do the bad things.

The main strategy I’ve seen is to form a pact against federating with them. I hope it works.