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Cake day: February 7th, 2025

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  • I am not sure if this is a joke. Most commentators seem to perceive it this way. But just in case I will answer seriously.

    This was done by a human:

    • your kid (you said you live alone, so not this one)
    • your guests
    • someone uninvited (but it makes no sense for them to leave this)
    • you in a way you cannot remember.

    I will expand on that last one since no one has done it: Do you have an issue with substance abuse? Do you have issues with your memory? Do you have any psychiatric issues? Your other personality could to this if you have a dissociative identity disorder. Check symptoms and pay attention on similar events. If this keeps happening go see a doctor.




  • Relationship maintenance not being exclusive to marriage does not make it suddenly fun.

    First do note I distinguish between loving someone and falling in love. My native language have two different words. One for the deep connection (being in love) and one for temporary feeling (deeply loving).

    Married people falling in love (temporary feeling) is common. Not saying it happens to everyone every day. But you do not imagine people around you would often tell you about this really sensitive private topic?

    Imagine you suddenly get a hot and a really friendly coworker that you have to spend time with them every day working on a project. It is in nature of falling in love to fall in love with a person you spend this much time with.

    How on earth do you imagine there is so much cheating and divorce (especially with coworkers) in the world? People misinterpret a temporary feeling for a deep connection. And some even for destiny… This of course often leads to cheating.

    I think we are again just differently interpreting a subjective word “often”.

    In my opinion people saying marriage is happy but it is a lot of work just mean, you should not forget about relationship maintenance. There are reasons 40% of people in relationships end up cheating. And I do not believe it is because couples are just incompatible. In my opinion this is a natural outcome of letting yourself grow apart from your spouse. And not being careful about getting attached to new people. And both are just symptoms of leaving out the “hard work” of the relationship maintenance.


  • Nah I would disagree… 99% of marriage is just pure fun. However people forget about 1% that is relationship maintenance. This is work. Not the hardest work, but work.

    But some people just ignore the fact you should take special care of this relationship. People can very easliy and slowly grow apart…

    The hardest example is if a married person starys getting in love with someone else. This is common and noone is imune to this. However having a doscussion about this with your partner is unplesent and would more likely fall into a category of hard work as compared to category of fun…

    Probably I am just disagreeing with the how much ‘a lot’ represents…






  • “Script” in a computer programming sense. An algorithm. So general behavior is most likely predefined. So not a script in a sense that it always does the same thing. This just means its behavior is most likely described using “if” statements. Eg. “If oponent did this, respond with that…” Algorithm can also “remember” some actions and act based on that. However the AI is most probably not activeley learning from your actions. It has all the knowledge predefined.

    Some more advanced algorithms utilize some self learning principles. Buy this is very rare in games since this is resource intensive.

    But even machine learning is not AI. Even LLM is not AI. But at least LLM became a synonym for AI in recent years.







  • Your specific situation you will have to handle yourself (with a help of therapist and / or friends of course).

    However I read a quote from therapist who also happened to be a father. It goes something like that:

    It is impossible to not hurt and scar your children. Parents are only humans. And parenting is really really really hard. We crack some times. (Note some parents hurt and scar their kids way worse than the others. Also some parents are worse at being parents and some are just evil, etc…)

    A kid is grown up at the time they learn to forgive their parents for their mistakes.

    (Or even make peace with abuses if it was really bad)

    As a parent or a person you cannot stop making mistakes. The only thing you can do is to apologize. It seems to me your mom did that. The rest is on you - to forgive her for this mistake. (There might be something deeper going on in your family - I am replying with the context I have)

    If you need someone to talk to, you can DM me. However I will be replying when I have time ~ once a day.