• kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    2 months ago

    For several years I hated women because subconsciously I was angry that they are allowed to express their femininity and I’m not. Now that I’ve matured I hate the system that keeps me oppressed. I think if “alpha males” stopped taking out their anger on women and instead on the capitalist class we would start seeing some true progress.

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      2 months ago

      For several years I hated women because subconsciously I was angry that they are allowed to express their femininity and I’m not.

      Wouldn’t the equivalent rather be women being allowed to express masculine traits? Which to be fair is well-accepted nowadays.

      However, I don’t give a shit if people see some of my traits as feminine. I was born male and 100% identify as male. If others see my traits as feminine, it doesn’t change my identity because I define it. Think I shouldn’t wear long hair? Who asked for your opinion? And why should be awesome traits like empathy or openness be strictly female and not human?

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        Some masculine traits in women are accepted to some extent. But, look at the backlash against that Algerian boxer.

        For someone who really cares about fitting in with society, the pressure to conform can be pretty brutal. There’s probably more freedom to be who you want to be now than ever before. In the past not only gender roles, but every role in society was extremely rigid. People didn’t even have the freedom to decide whether or not to wear a hat outside. The expectation was that everyone wore a hat, and if you didn’t you were a real oddball.

        I strongly suspect that some of the people who think they’re trans are just people who have interests/passions/attitudes/personalities that don’t conform to their stereotypical gender roles.

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      2 months ago

      they are allowed to express their femininity and I’m not.

      A man expressing masculinity? “That’s violently toxic!”

      A man expressing femininity? “That’s disgustingly pathetic!”

      Now that I’ve matured I hate the system that keeps me oppressed

      Except… who reinforces those oppressive rules?

      It ain’t men, that’s for sure. We just passively submit and nod our heads yes to whatever women say, least we are painted with the same brush by association, and be labelled misogynistic or “not a man” for disagreeing.

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        2 months ago

        A man expressing masculinity? “That’s violently toxic!”

        Okay, I have to imagine you’re here in bad faith because anyone who understands toxic masculinity would not phrase it this way.

      • kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        2 months ago

        I was referring to the capitalist class that keeps people divided while they enrich themselves. Also it was primarily men who stopped me from expressing any sort of femininity while women passively agreed.