Doesn’t have to be about over traumatic-related things, but just in general, things you don’t like talking about. Whether it’ll bum you down, distract you or vice versa.
I don’t like talking about work, my job and how the week went. All it’ll do and has done, is make me dread of upcoming work weeks even during my time off. I hate being asked the typical question “how was your day at work?” any other time. Because the answer is just going to be unsatisfying and I get annoyed even having to answer that question. It’s not that I’m hiding anything, it’s just that it’s fucking work and it is the same damn thing every night. I put up with stupid fucking people, even dumber co-workers and I work in a system that is massively ungrateful for what you do for it.
That’s all you’ll ever need to know about it, so stop trying to get me to talk about that shit.
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Myself
Work. I always felt kinda bad that I had a fun job and people always wanted to hear my work stories. Then it’s their turn and they’re like I crunched some numbers and printed some papers. I couldn’t care less. There’s an imbalance there we’re I have to carry a convo and almost immediately stop caring when it’s flipped to them.
Before you ask, sports broadcasting.
I do not need to know your money situation and you do not need to know mine. You ain’t my family. Even then I don’t care. Keep that shit to yourself.
That’s none of your business.
/shrug
Interactive performance art, and D&D, probably for the same reasons. It’s fine if it’s your cup of tea, but I find them to be incredibly annoying. I don’t want to participate in either of those worlds in any way. Oddly I love many videogames RPG’s and can get behind a well written play. I just find there aforementioned extremes to be entirely tedious and grating.
Magic the Gathering, other TCGs and board games.
I can have fun while playing them, but that’s mostly for the social aspect of it. I don’t really care to discuss it outside of actually playing. Maybe it’s because my friend group is full of people who do want to discuss it and I’m just… Not that interested.
People’s kids, especially toddlers/babies. Like, I’m so sorry but I literally could not give any less fucks. Even those I consider family, I’m like tolerant of but I don’t want to sit and have a whole ass conversation about what your kid did at daycare. Talk to me when they’re older and doing actual cool shit.
Even worse is a friend of mine who doesn’t even have kids but tells me all about her multiple sisters’ kids!
Oh god this.
I’m sure parenting a young child feels really isolating. But YOU chose to isolate yourself. I didn’t.
As someone with a three and a half year old who goes to daycare, who sometimes does finger-painting, or sings songs, and tells stories about being pushed by this girl named Farron, all I can say is haha I fucking got you, you read about my kids day and now yours is ruined lolololol.
rekt
I think one very scary thing to admit is when a mother has this feeling towards their baby. Sometimes, the movie magic just doesn’t hit; and it feels like an annoying, parasitic burden rather than a precious living human.
But to be in any way vocal about it makes one seem like a horrible or evil mother, and could lead to intense ostracization.
Can’t say.
My work.
Trans stuff. I really have no strong opinions on gender and it doesn’t interest me in the slightest. Whenever I have discussed it when asked directly I just become aware of my own ignorance. I don’t want to upset or hurt anyone and don’t feel engaged enough to dig much beyond a basic sort of live and let live philosophy.
The future, and how everything sucks now compared to the past, and how much worse it will get
Because all of that is true 😔 I’d rather stay in my “living in 2003” bubble. I’ll go out to vote and then come back to hide again.
I’m exaggerating as I tend to do. But there aren’t any discussions of the future that don’t leave me depressed
Religion, spirituality, and the afterlife. They’re all really fucking stupid made-up nonsense and are an absolute waste of time and thought. May as well try to imagine a new color.
The new color would be a more productive pursuit.
At least we do actually know that there are more colors than what we see. There is more substance to that train of that.
I’ve been vegan for nearly ten years, I dread any time the topic comes up with people who aren’t also vegan.
It usually becomes a pointless debate where I either have to heavily self-censor, or end up hurting the feelings of people who eat animal products. It’s always the same conversations I’ve already had hundreds of times, no one’s gonna change my mind and I probably won’t change theirs either.
It’s kind of unfortunate because I always want to ask details with what I believe is an open mind. However people are naturally cautious against going there.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not interested in going vegan but as an omnivore I can appreciate any source of good food and sometimes choose vegan ones. And as someone who wants to entertain, I want to be able to provide good choices for you to enjoy
Now if only I can figure out vegan meals that would do well in my smoker!
Jackfruit is a great pulled pork substitute, haven’t tried smoking it yet though
Huh, never tried it
Are there different forms or something I should look for? I’ve only noticed it in a small can in the Asian section of my grocery
I get pretty big cans at Trader Joe’s if you have one of those close by. I haven’t looked for it in a while though, so no clue if they still carry it.
I’ll take a look, thanks
If you go about it with curiosity, especially if you focus on recipes instead of ethics, you’re probably good. Sharing food is such a big social thing that you get a bit ostracized from when you’re vegan, so it truly is nice to share recipes with earnest people like you seem to be.
Now if only I can figure out vegan meals that would do well in my smoker!
I’ve never used a smoker so I’m not quite familiar with the process, but my first instinct would be trying something with seitan. I did find some recipes with just a quick search.
If you do smoke some seitan, feel free to invite me, I’ll bring drinks! :P
I’ll look into that …
A smoker is essentially cooking for a long time at lower temperatures while infusing flavor from selected wood. It works well with certain meats that match the wood flavors well, and especially tougher cuts where the long cooking time tenderizes.
Other things that have worked well include
- Mac and cheese (vegetarian)
- Apple pie (could easily be vegan)
- baked beans (could easily be vegan)
- corn, both on cob and in casserole
- some fruits like pineapple
- avocados worked well because of the lower temperatures compared to a grill, but I don’t think it picked up the smoke
Vegetables generally don’t, because they don’t pick up any flavor. For roasted peppers especially, it doesn’t get hot enough to blacken the skins well. Halloumi didn’t do well but maybe I don’t know how to cook that
I really want to build on the baked beans - I bet similar stew type things work well, like lentils - and the pie
I probably won’t change theirs either.
🙏
I’ve never made anyone become vegan, but a lot of my friends have definitely opened up to incorporating more vegetarian or vegan meals into their diets, which I do count as a small win.
A friend who used to be very much the meat & potatoes type has recently been texting me excitedly about the new vegan recipes he’s been trying out. He still regularly eats meat, but hey, it’s something.
It is so fucking tempting to ask every single person in this thread to elaborate lol
Yeah, can you please do that? It’s too many lol
Anything “deep” with parents…
“Hey dad did you know that if you go on a space ship and travel very fast then come back to earth, thousands or tens of thousands of years could pass on earth and it only feels like a few hours on the spaceship”
Dad: “Oh really? Cooool” sounds disinterested af and continues scrolling wechat
“Hey mom did you know that scientists detected that a brain has activity before the person makes a decision? Maybe we don’t have free will and the universe is deterministic!”
Mom: “Of course we have free will! Why are you overthinking everything? 日日諗埋諗埋啲咁嘅嘢，一味鑽牛角尖 (not sure how to translate this part, something like ‘Everyday you keep thinking these weird thoughts, keep going down a rabbit hole’)”
Also I can’t really mention suicide… or I’m “ungreatful for everything they’ve done for me”
Also politics:
“Why are you so worried about big things, just focus on yourself”
“If the government comes knocking and arrest you, then it’s your fault, just don’t drag us down with you” (aka: just don’t dissent)
I’m convinced the methodology on that decision study is flawed. Decision making isn’t an instantaneous process, it takes time for the mind to settle on an option. That neurological ramping up is the decision making.
This just in: New evidence suggests some people think before making a decision? We’ll tell you what this means for your weekend at 11.
Now what I want to see is if M1 neurons begin to show increased activity before someone thinks about getting up to go pee, but decides to hold it in. Because if so, it’s pretty clear that the decision making process simply involves motor neurons readying themselves in case they’re needed. But if they don’t, then it means the motor cortex is contributing to the decision making process, and that’s an actually informative result.
Well, now I’m curious as well. If I only kind of have to pee, like I just noticed it, it feels entirely voluntary to hold it, but if I really have to pee, it does feel like one one part of my brain is sending “pee now” signals that another part of my brain, the conscious decision-making part, has to fight against, which makes me think they have to get involved in the decision somehow. Maybe that physical motor control fight just is how those two parts of the brain mediate each other. Neat.
And what we’re doing right now is good science. We’re operationalising our variables and making testable predictions, deciding what the possible results could mean before we conduct the experiment and see them.
Saying “Neuron activity before a decision is made disproves free will” is bad science, because “free will” is being implicitly operationalised in a very opinionated way, and it’s not exactly clear what the experimenter thinks a null hypothesis result would look like.
I don’t think neuroscience can tell us whether free will exists, because “free will” is too difficult to operationalise in a way everyone would agree with. For example, many people think if our actions are predetermined based on our environment, it means no free will. But I think if our actions are random, that’s not free will, and predetermined actions would make Me feel much freer. I want to know that My mind behaves consistently, that makes Me feel in control. Many disagree. This disagreement can’t be resolved with science.
Oddly culturally specific 😅 I love the perspective! ❤️
